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Most importantly, make time for your partner every day. Put the phone down and focus on the person right in front of you. Let your partner know that they are important to you and that their feelings matter more than anything else in the world.
Try these tips out, let us know how they work for you and most importantly - enjoy each other's company!
It is interesting that this article posted on the jw.org website endorses sexual relations outside marriage, but it is very common for JW's to shun those who do this.
'Is there something wrong with me?': Heartbroken mother reveals how she was shamed by elders after being raped by a friend at the age of 14 - but says she still believes in Jehovah
By Erin DeWitt For Dailymail.com Published: 17:36 EST, 10 August 2017 | Updated: 18:02 EST, 10 August 2017
A mother has shared her story of being shamed by elders in the Jehovah's Witnesses after she was raped at 14-years-old. She said that when she went to them for help and guidance they told her 'there's something wrong with you'.
Erin Hatton, now 33, from Brooklyn New York, shared her story with The Daily Beast in an effort to get other women to come forward and speak out about their experiences.
Erin was raped by a friend when she was 14-years-old and after going to the elders for help they told her that there was something wrong with her. They also instructed her not to talk about what happened or else her friends would find out.
'I felt like something was wrong with me,' Erin told Dailymail.com. 'That's what the whole point was - to make me feel like I had done something bad, when it was him.'
Erin said that she wasn't allowed to tell anyone about the rape or go to the police and was also forbidden from having any social contact with boys her own age. She eventually left the religion in 2003 after getting married.
'I don't think anybody should be shamed for being raped,' she said. 'Nobody does anything wrong when they're raped.'
According to Erin, this sort of treatment is common in the religion. 'It's not just me,' she said. 'There are so many other women who have been treated like this by the organization.' She explained that when someone comes forward with an issue or concern they are often told there is something wrong with them or even blamed for what happened.
'They tell you it's your fault because your thoughts and actions were enticing to the guy who raped you,' she said.
The group has gotten a lot of attention in recent years after being featured on the HBO show 'Going Clear', which is about Scientology, and also in an episode of 'Nightline'. Former members have spoken out about how they were pressured to donate large sums of money, were forced to get abortions if they became pregnant outside of wedlock and weren't allowed to go to the police if they were victims of crime. Erin says that she was never asked to give money and that she never got an abortion, but she did say that if you were pregnant then you were forced to get married. 'They really push marriage,' she said. 'You have no choice.'
Speaking out: Erin Hatton (pictured) shared her story with The Daily Beast in an effort to get other women to come forward and speak out about their experiences of being raped by a member of the Jehovah's Witnesses
She also claims that there are many girls who become pregnant by boys in their congregation and are forced to have abortions. 'They'll tell you it's the right thing to do,' she said. 'Then they pressure you into getting married.'
Erin also shared that she was taught at a young age that sex before marriage is sinful, but didn't think much of it until after she was raped. After leaving the religion, Erin got her degree from Columbia University and now works as an activist for feminism and human rights. She says that there should be better protections for children in the religion. 'They hold them responsible for their actions,' she said. 'We need to protect these kids.'
According to Erin, many of her friends who left the church were kicked out by their families. She claims that this is common and happens because they don't follow the rules or teachings of the organization. 'It's very scary,' she said. 'You're going against everything you've been taught your whole life.'
Jehovah's Witnesses refuse to report child abuse - even if it means a victim dies By MARTIN FRANCIS for the Daily Mail Updated: 01:43 EDT 14 July 2017
A Jehovah's Witness who failed to tell police about sexual abuse could be jailed for five years.
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